Is Fear Getting in the Way of the Life That You Want?

Fear can be so involved in our daily lives that we don’t even recognize it as fear. When someone asks, “What are you afraid of?” many of you might say spiders or public speaking. Let’s dig deeper though. What about loneliness, death, rejection, or failure? Okay, that was pretty deep. BUT, these ARE things we fear, and maybe we don’t jump to admit it because we’re comfortable and don’t want to face the fact that they are preventing us from doing more with our lives.

Maybe you’re unhappy in a relationship but you aren’t doing anything about it because you fear being alone. However, by allowing that fear to dictate your life, you’re not seeing the potential for freedom and happiness that will overpower the loneliness you imagine. Maybe you have a great idea that you want to share with your boss, but you don’t share it because you fear he or she will reject it. Then at next month’s meeting, someone else had a similar idea that they proposed and your boss loved it. You handed your great opportunity over to someone else because of fear. I could go on and on with examples, but it’s clear that fear limits us from being the best version of ourselves and discovering our potential for a great and purposeful life.

So why aren’t you facing your fears?

F.E.A.R stands for False Emotions Appearing Real, nothing more. It’s our brain’s way of protecting us from perceived death or danger.

There are two options: Fear or Faith, you choose. Fear stops us while faith does it scared, and still does it! If we lean into the fear, it also propels us into the very thing we are most resisting, bringing the key to success.

Fear causes thoughts that manifest physically so you think, “Maybe I don’t feel well; maybe I’m sick today and can’t do it.” You manufacture a fire that you have to put out before you can do it. You conclude that maybe it’s just too hard and you won’t be able to do it. “It won’t work for me.”


What’s the fear antidote?? Activity.

  • Identify the first 3 steps involved, to work toward the goal.
  • Write them down and execute on them as soon as possible! The longer you wait, the higher the chance you won’t take the first step.
  • Jump in with both feet and fall forward!!!

Why facing your fears is rewarding:

Doing things that we aren’t fearful of gives a low level sense of achievement. Doing things we are fearful of brings a rich, deeper level of achievement because it’s something we conquered. And, it has the bonus of propelling us forward to the next thing.

If you relate to this post, you will benefit from reading about my own journey through fear. You can download the first chapter of my book for free HERE to get a sense of what I’m talking about. Just click on that link and scroll down a little.

The hardest challenge in facing your fears is the action part. Getting started and building up momentum. Most people need that initial nudge, and EVERYONE needs support along the way. If you haven’t thought about getting a life coach before, you can learn more about what that is HERE, or you can e-mail me at: to talk about it one-on-one.

Here’s to the start of your fabulous life journey!


Karen Brown, CEO, Velocity Leadership Consulting

Karen Brown is CEO of Velocity Leadership Consulting, a Denver-based business psychology executive coaching company. With more than 20,000 business coaching hours under her belt, she founded Velocity Leadership Consulting 2012, after finding her own potential while training for and finishing the IRONMAN World Championships in Kona, Hawaii. Velocity Leadership Consulting coaches use business psychology and transformational coaching techniques to help CEOs, executives and managers experience results with greater velocity in their personal and professional lives. Karen personally coaches a select number of clients and delivers international keynotes and presentations to corporations, professional associations and business groups. She is a Brian Tracy Certified Keynote Speaker and is the author of Unlimiting Your Beliefs; 7 Keys to Greater Success in Your Personal and Professional Life. She continues to train and compete as an international ultra-athlete.

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